Life and Times

Sunday, July 26, 2009


I love weekends! I love to sleep in, lazy around and just hang at the house. This weekend I had to work at the Legion 2 nights of the weekend. I only have 3 more nights of that and then my weekends will be free again.
One of the best things of the weekend is to be sleeping and wake up just cuddled up with Ron. He rarely sleeps in, he gets up early no matter what day it is. There are times when he lazes around and stays in bed.
When you are compatible with someone it makes things wonderful. Now I sleep in and he gets up early. The weekends he does get up early but he just goes in the living room and watches tv and is quiet so I can sleep. It's a Birch trait for sure to sleep in. We all have a sleep problem I think. Everyone of the Birch's love to sleep in. I am not a morning person so sleeping in is what I enjoy.
What's your pleasure? What do you enjoy? Mine is sleeping in!!

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Today is Henry Lee Roy Birch's Day

My dad was born today. He would have been 76 years-old. For all the things I remember I know that one thing I remember was that he always wanted to talk and be with me. I am from a family of 8 kids so getting alone time with either parent was a rarity. Dad always spent time with me. When I was married and living away from home he would come from Crescent and come by Kowloons just to say hi to me and then spend the weekend with me. Those are days to remember. When he would come into Kowloon I was so surprised because he never called and said he was coming. I would make him his favorite drink. It was Vodka, Galliano, and orange juice. He love them. I would order him some BBQ pork and we'd visit for a while and then he would go to our house for the weekend. Sometimes just to hang out and sometimes to do things for me like hang blinds and such crap like that. Those were special times for me.
Dad we will will always remember and love you. You were an individual and a person that I loved. No matter what faults we all have we remember the good when someone is gone. I remember!

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

getting away

Do you ever feel like you need a break from life and everyone and everything? I have had many times where I just needed to get away as I'm sure we all have. Why do I feel stressed when I don't have alot to stress about at this very moment? Maybe I just need a real vacation. I feel like sometimes my world is crashing in on me and I can't breathe. I don't want to work but work hard to make the day go by. It's not that I feel overwhelmed but I just don't know how to explain it, I just feel edgy and don't know why. I'm sure it will pass but for now it drives me crazy. Everyone and everything irritates me and shouldn't. I guess I'll go for a walk tomorrow after work and see if that helps. I've missed my walks now for over a month or more. Not good I know. Something about just a simple walk that can clear your mind and just make you feel at ease. So this is my plan: walk tomorrow and Thursday and then work Friday and Saturday at the Legion and then walk again Sunday. By next week I should be back to normal.

Monday, July 20, 2009

The Other Half

To most of us dating is not new. We are not teenagers most of us so we've been there done that. So if you were married for any length of time and then were divorced you have now a new situation. So we all go to different places because being normal we want to meet other people and of course loneliness gets to all of us and we search for a soul mate. Have you met that person? What is a soul mate? To me it is a person you can be with that makes you happy, you make them happy, you want to be with them even if it is just sitting on the couch watching a movie. When Ron and I married I didn't know if he was my soul mate. Now I know different. He accepts all my faults and still loves me. He knows me in every way. He knows when I'm having a bad day and tries to make it better. We go places together and we just hang together and we both love it. We just went to St. Augustine Florida, the oldest city in Florida. We just hung out at the hot tub at our hotel, watched tv and just relaxed but we were both happy with that. It was like being on a short honeymoon. We talked, hugged, held, and just plain enjoyed being for a day.
How many people have that these days? You have to take time to be a couple and to truely enjoy being together. With life as busy as it is and with kids and stress we all forget that we need time to get away from reality with our soul mate to just remember who they are and who we are together.
So my advice to anyone is that if you have met your soul mate, don't forget to spend time together alone to remember why you wanted that person and why you fell in love with that person in the first place. Sometimes it's only one day that you need but take the time before it's too late to remember.

Saturday, July 18, 2009

To Be Glad or Sad?

So Jake had finally decided to do something with his life and he decided to join the Marine Corp. I was mixed on my feelings about this but overall happy because I knew it would get him away from his immediate influences and also give him a steady paycheck with insurance etc. So he left for boot camp in May. As much as I missed him I knew he would do well. He is the type that when he decides something he puts his whole heart into it. So within a couple of weeks he is made squad leader of his troop. So I know he is doing his hardest to succeed. Then in one swoop he is in the medical unit with a dislocated shoulder. He spends the next 6 weeks in the medical waiting for a decision as to whether he can go back to training or not. Finally he gets an MRI done and the results of his MRI from Oregon are compared and shows several tears in his rotator cuff. So he is unable to return to training to finish. They will be sending him home. So for me should I be sad and upset he wasn't able to finish or be happy that he will be where I can talk to him daily again? For me I am happy and sad. I had wanted him to finish because I am afraid he will go back to the influences he had before he left and not go back to school which is his plan. I can only hope and guide as I have always done. For Jake I know it is a disappointment but as I said he did his best to try to finish. His physical therapist in the medical said he has a real good party trick by being able to pop his shoulder out and back in place! Not a good thing. I guess also I am glad that he is being sent home because of the wars going on because he had signed up for combat after training. That really scared me. I would have supported him in every way because I love him and want the best for him but it would have worried me to death. Does a mom ever stop worrying? The answer to that is no!!!!! It only gets worse as they get older I can tell you that.